When a loved one passes on, you contact a Highland Park, NJ Jewish funeral home and carry out with the final services. Grief and shock can be heavy at that point, but everyone says things will get better with time. As the next year goes by, it is traditional to stay in a mourning state. But what happens after that year has passed? You don’t want your loved one to be forgotten and you aren’t simply “over it.” What can you do to carry on with your life without leaving your loved one behind? Here are a few suggestions.
Hold Yearly Memorials
It’s traditional for families to get together for a funeral service or memorial after someone passes on, but that doesn’t mean you can’t do something similar in the future. While you’ve already said your goodbyes, gather close family members every year to talk about your loved one or hold a memorial they would enjoy. The event doesn’t have to be anything formal. In fact, it can be a barbeque or picnic. Just set a time to remember your loved one by gathering together, sharing old photos, and telling stories about their life.
Look At The Photo Albums
When you lose someone close to you, no amount of time is going to erase them from your past. Take a look at the photo albums you have that hold valuable memories including that person. If you have videos of them, get those out as well. Once the grief isn’t so raw, you will more likely enjoy looking through the memories and laughing along with the funny stories behind the pictures.
Find A Namesake
Many people have a favorite charity or special spot in a park they enjoy. You might donate money people gave to you around the funeral to one of those locations. After a year has passed, you may want to put your loved one’s name on something. Donate a park bench, for example, and have a plaque placed on it in honor of your loved one. Start a scholarship fund in their name. Their name and memory will live on with your help.
Spread Their Name To The Next Generation
One of the most important things you can do after your first year of grief is behind you is to spread the word about your loved one to your children, grandchildren, and others around you. Not only is it cathartic to talk about them, but descendants deserve to know about their past and telling stories about them and remembering them is one of the best ways to honor their memory.
If you’ve gotten through the first year of grief and you still find yourself wallowing in the pain, contact a Highland Park, NJ Jewish funeral home for help and resources to make the other side of their death look a little bit brighter. If you are just now dealing with a death, contact Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels at (732) 390-9199 to start looking into service options. We’re located at 454 Cranbury Rd, East Brunswick, NJ 08816 and we’re here to help during this difficult time.