Grief is difficult for anyone, even a full adult. Death is never going to be easy, but it can be even harder on teens, who are not yet fully formed in a variety of ways. If a loved one in your family has passed on and you have a teen in mourning in your life, you need to know how to help them. Here are a few suggestions from your local Monroe, NJ Jewish funeral home to follow to aid your teen through the process.
The most important thing you can do for your teen at this time is to listen to them with an open mind and heart. Not every teen will want to talk about it right away, but if they do, listen to them without judgement. They may have a different take on life and death than you do as an adult and you want to keep the conversation about them and not push them into telling you they aren’t willing to talk about yet. Just encourage their communication and listen without asking too many questions.
Let Them Show Emotion
It’s easier for children to cry than it is adults because there isn’t a stigma on it yet. As teens, they’re starting to get the picture that crying isn’t always accepted. And they don’t always want to show their emotions to anyone. They’ve started to learn how to hide things about themselves and the changes going on within them. During this difficult time, let them show the emotions they are feeling, whatever that might be. Allow yourself to become a shoulder to cry on and don’t try to distract them from their feelings. They need to get these things out in the open to feel better.
It’s possible the teen in your life hasn’t been to a funeral home before and they might have questions about what will take place and how things will line up during the funeral process. Answer all of their questions fully. If you don’t know the answer, assure them that you will find out and then follow through on that promise. Be as open and honest as possible as teens are on the verge of adulthood and will see through veiled answers.
Many teens will want to stay in the background at the funeral home, but if they allow, involve them in the process as you would any other family member. Let them know they can take part in the funeral if they wish and offer ideas for doing so.
Get more tips about helping your teen deal with grief from the professionals at Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels, located at 454 Cranbury Road (at Evergreen Blvd.) East Brunswick, NJ 08816. If you need to organize services with a Monroe, NJ Jewish funeral home while you are dealing with your teen at the same time, call us at (800) 395-9199 or (732) 390-9199 to speak with our funeral director. You can also look up details to get started on our website at https://www.msmc.us/