If you have a friend or co-worker who has experienced a death in their family, you might feel helpless at first. The best you can do is support them in any way you can. If the final services are open to the public and you are welcome to attend at the East Brunswick, NJ Jewish funeral home, your presence alone can say a lot. However, you might feel like you want to do more to help them through the grieving process. Understand that grief really is a process and it won’t go away overnight. Your friend might be surrounded by family at first, so you might not feel like they need you. But a month down the road, they will still be grieving, and they still need extra support. Here are some things you can do later when the grief isn’t as fresh but is still prevalent in their life.
Offer A Listening Ear
After some time has passed, the people in your friend’s life will go back to their normal schedules and they might not feel like they can talk about the person they lost or their grief. Everyone else is acting normal, they should be as well. Let your friend know that you are there to listen to them, no matter how much time has passed since their loved one died. You can take them out for lunch during a break at work or for coffee after hours. They might want to talk about their emotions, memories of their loved one, or something else in relation to the loss. Just being there to listen can make a huge difference.
Help With Small Tasks
While many families are overwhelmed by help right after a member passes on, that help is often fleeting. Ask your friend what you can do to help once everyone else disappears. Perhaps they don’t have the energy to prepare healthy meals for their family or they’d really like someone to watch their kids for a few hours so they can visit their loved one’s gravesite alone. Whatever the small tasks might be, cover them when you can.
Remember Their Loved One
Keep track of when your friend’s loved one’s birthday was and the date of their death. Those special days are going to be extra trying when they come around. Do your best to be there for your friend on those days and don’t be afraid to bring up the date. They’ll be thinking about it and they’ll appreciate that you remember as well.
The Jewish funeral home in East Brunswick, NJ that your friend works with on final services for their loved one will cover them with all the support they need immediately after the death. But down the road, they might need you even more than they did right away. If you need resources to help you support someone in grief, contact Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels, located at 454 Cranbury Rd, East Brunswick, NJ 08816 by calling (732) 390-9199 and we will help in any way we can.