Even if you are the one ultimately in charge of the plans with a Jewish funeral home in Edison, NJ when a loved one has passed away, that doesn’t mean you have to be alone in the process. There are lots of ways to include your family members so that everyone has a part in the project that becomes your loved one’s final service. It’s nice to include others who were important to your loved one. Plus, it gives you the extra support you might need along the way as well. Here are a few ways to involve family members in the plans.
Take Someone With You
When you first meet with the funeral home, you likely feel overwhelmed with your loved one’s death and all you have to do to plan the final services. It’s a good idea to take someone with you so you have a second set of eyes and ears to help you with everything. They can be a shoulder to cry on, when needed, but also, they might remember something later that you didn’t notice. They can take notes, point things out to you, and just be there to support you. It’s an important job for you, but can make them feel included and needed as well.
Ask For Advice
There are going to be a lot of decisions to make and while the funeral home won’t make them for you, there might be some that you struggle with yourself. You can go to certain family members, lay out the options for them, and then ask them what they think the right choice is. They might point something out that you hadn’t thought of before or they may have a certain gut reaction that you hadn’t thought about when you first looked into the choices. Their advice could also support what you were thinking and help you have confidence in moving that direction.
There are a lot of things you might want to get done, but that doesn’t mean you have to do them all. You can assign certain family members or friends certain tasks, so you have fewer burdens. Have a family friend, for example, arrange the reception. Have another family member put together the obituary. Whatever tasks you feel you can pass off are nice to distribute to others. They want to help, and you need the help so it’s a good match.
Working with a Jewish funeral home in Edison, NJ means you have professional support and lots of compassion, but involving family members can bring together even more of what you need to get through these difficult circumstances. If you want to think of more ways to involve your family, contact the experts at Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels and we can suggest some ways you might want them to fit into the process so everyone will feel like they are helping—and you feel like you have fewer burdens while you grieve for your loved one.