When a relative passes on and you want to adhere to their faith and traditions, every aspect of their final services with Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels, the Jewish funeral home in East Brunswick, NJ is of the utmost importance. Keep in mind that when you have a Jewish funeral home such as ours helping you set up services, you can ask any questions you have about the traditions that should be respected as we’re honored to serve thousands of Jewish families over the years. Regarding pallbearers, here are some general points to keep in mind.
Pallbearers Don’t Have To Be Male
While it may seem that you’ve always seen only men as pallbearers, it’s okay to have mixed pallbearers. We’ve even had all female pallbearers on a funeral, if that’s appropriate and fitting for the circumstances. We simply advise the family that whomever they choose needs to be physically capable..
You Can Have Honorary Pallbearers
Depending on the circumstances, you can have honorary pallbearers in addition to the actual pallbearers. For example, these can be grandchildren if they are too young, work colleagues, or those who elderly or too infirm to handle the physical task.
Consider It An Honor, A Mitzvah
Pallbearers are individuals who will escort your loved one out of the funeral home or synagogue and to the cemetery burial plot. In a way, they are the final hands on the casket. Just as helping to fill a person’s grave, this final act of kindness is a place of honor and considered one of the highest mitzvahs one can do for someone, as there is no way that the deceased can ever repay you for this good deed.
Be Aware that Some Cemeteries Don’t allow Family Pallbearers
Be aware that there are some cemeteries that don’t allow family members to carry the casket in their cemetery. For safety, this is usually due to ground and site conditions but also in today’s litigious society, it’s also due to insurance and liability concerns. We will advise you if the cemetery you’re using has specific rules regarding pallbearers.
Here at Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels, our family owned Jewish funeral home in East Brunswick, NJ we’re here to help and will guide you on all aspects of the service, including pallbearers. Give us a call at (732) 390-9199 . We understand that funerals aren’t something you deal with regularly, but we do and we can help you navigate all the details and traditions so your family gets nothing but the best. We’re located at 454 Cranbury Rd, East Brunswick, NJ 08816 and we’ve been serving families from Milltown, Edison, Woodbridge and the surrounding areas for over 35 years, and we’re happy to meet with you in person whenever is convenient for you.