When you attend services for a loved one at a Jewish funeral home in Edison, NJ, you might notice there are other family members who seem just fine with their grief. Yes, they’re sad, but they’re moving on, saying goodbye, and figuring out their future without that person. But you, on the other hand, don’t feel like things are going that way for you. First of all, it’s okay. It’s completely normal for different people to grieve in different ways and at different paces. You need to keep an eye on your own grief and be the judge of whether or not you need extra help.
Things Are Getting Worse, Not Better
As time passes, you’ll still feel the loss, but you should start to feel like things are getting better and not worse. You might have more energy in a few weeks to take up your normal exercise routine and start cooking for your family again. If, instead, you feel like your grief is driving you to a darker place and things are going from bad to worse, you might want to reach out for help and see a grief counselor.
You’re Isolating Yourself
There are going to be times when you want to be alone with your grief and your thoughts and there’s nothing wrong with that. But if you turn down every opportunity to see a friend and you even find yourself avoiding family, the isolation isn’t going to help you in any way. Isolating yourself can make the grief turn into a deep depression and you need to pull yourself out of that before it gets too hard. Talk to a grief counselor and make an effort to see others, even a little at a time.
You Don’t Enjoy Anything
There are some things that you loved naturally in the past, like gardening, perhaps, or taking long walks in a local park. If you don’t find that you enjoy anything at all, even things you used to love doing, it’s time to talk to someone. Your life without your loved one is going to be hard, but you are going to have to find a way to move on and feel joy again.
You Are Getting Physically Ill
Grieving can manifest itself in physical ways and you might notice that at first. But if those symptoms turn into more symptoms and they don’t ease as time passes, your grief is taking over your entire body and you are going to need help to weed through your emotions and come back from the hard time you are facing.
If you are starting to recognize that you need a grief counselor to help you through this stage in your life, the professionals at the Jewish funeral home in Edison, NJ have resources to pass along to you. At Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels, we take care of your loved one after death, but we also want to get you what you need to move forward.