There’s nothing harder in life than losing a loved one. Working with Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels, a Jewish funeral home in East Brunswick, NJ , our compassionate staff will help you plan an appropriate service and get you through those first few days. After those services and the shiva period, life goes on, there are going to be holidays and other events that are going to pop up and renew your grief. There are a lot of different ways you can work toward a new normal including setting up new traditions. Some families like to set a place at the table for their loved one on their birthday, Thanksgiving, Mother’s Day, or other holidays that they hold dear. Here are some suggestions of the things that you can do.
Remind Everyone Of Them
Choose the chair they always sat in and set a place at the table, just as you have previously. Only, place their cup upside down or put the silverware on the plate as if they have already finished their meal. No one sits in that seat because it is reserved for your loved one. Their absence will be felt, and it will cause everyone to remember them. Stories about that person and the last time they sat in that seat might start flying. It may be somber for a while, but it can also turn into more of a celebration as people remember the fond times.
Honor Their Memory
Of course you want to move on, but there’s never going to be a time in your life when that person wasn’t an important part of your past. When you set a place at the table for them during the special occasions, you are honoring their memory and the part they played in your life and in the lives around you. It might be a good time to say a prayer in their memory or start another family tradition in their absence.
Get Used To The New Normal
There’s nothing easy about adjusting once someone special is gone, but in order to move on with your life, you have to get used to a new normal. If that means traditions, like setting a place at the table during family gatherings, it’s good to do so. Establishing something new that will feel normal, in a much different way, can help you move on easier.
There are no right or wrong ways to grieve after a loss. But if you feel like setting a place at the table is a good move for your family, by all means, do it. Our experienced staff at Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels are here to help with other suggestions and ideas that families before yours have tried and appreciated. We’re located at 454 Cranbury Rd, East Brunswick, NJ 08816 and we serve families throughout Central Jersey including Highland Park, Edison, Sayreville and the surrounding areas and we’d be happy to serve you as well. Call us at (732) 390-9199 with any questions