There are a lot of things you are going to have to decide with the Jewish funeral home in Edison, NJ in order to arrange your loved one’s final services. Once the services are ready and you know their needs are being met, you are going to want to think about attending the event and how you will go about doing that. Will you take your children, for example? That’s a decision only you can make based on what they need, their maturity level, and so on. But here are a few examples that might help you decide one way or the other.
They Knew The Person Well And Are Mourning-Yes
If your child knew the person who passed on well, they are probably grieving their death as well. They might need to go to the final service just as much as you do because they need closure and a chance to say goodbye as well. If their grandparent passed on, for example, and they used to spend a lot of time with them, it’s a good idea that they go to the service so they can honor their memory just as you want to.
They Didn’t Know The Person And Would Be Distracting-No
If the funeral service is for your cousin, someone you grew up with but who never met your child (or only saw them once or twice), your child may not need to grieve the loss. They won’t notice any difference in their life, other than the fact that you are sad over the death. Your child may not be able to concentrate on the services because they didn’t know the person. They don’t need to grieve and would just be a distraction to you at the service. In those cases, you might want to leave them with another family member or a sitter.
They Are Well Behaved And Can Handle It-Yes
There are some children who are used to sitting still for an hour or so and are good at it and well behaved. If your child is used to going to church, for example, and sitting for that hour without fidgeting and talking, they can handle a final service as well. Keep in mind that funerals are different than church services so you want to think about whether or not they can handle that element, too.
They Are Too Young To Understand-No
If your child is a baby, or even a toddler, they don’t know what’s going on around them at a final service. They might cry during the service and they can’t appreciate the actions for what they are. It might be best for you, and for others sitting around you, to leave them home.
It’s completely up to you whether you take your child to the Jewish funeral home in Edison, NJ for the final services you want to attend. You can always call the professionals at Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels, tell us about your child, and we can give you expert advice.