Visiting A Loved One’s Grave

After you have final services with a Jewish funeral home in Edison, NJ for a loved one, you know you have given them the customs and rituals you wanted and sent them off with honor and respect, but you are still grieving. You might be able to move your grief forward at a steady pace or you might get stuck in a certain stage and need some extra help in getting into a new sense of normal. Either way, there may come a time when you feel like visiting your loved one’s grave. Here are a few tips to help you get through that process.

Visit When You Have Ample Time

Of course, there are no timeframes on a visit. If you want to visit on your way to work one mourning, so be it. But if you really want to spend some time reflecting, mourning, thinking over memories, and so on, you will want to make sure you have enough time. When you have a day off, a nice weekend ahead, or several hours in a row, that might be a good time to visit. You can walk around the cemetery and enjoy the peace and quiet. You can also spend some time at your loved one’s gravestone talking to them, thinking about the past, and catching up on what’s going on in your life now. For at least the first several visits, it’s nice not to feel like you are in a rush. There may be other times in the future as well when you simply want more time.

Pack Snacks/Water

If you are going to take your time at the cemetery, it’s a good idea to have some snacks in your car so you can run back there and grab something. At the very least, you will want to have water. If you get emotional, you might need to rehydrate and give yourself some time to calm down a bit before you drive away. With snacks, if you get hungry but don’t want to leave yet, it’s nice to have some trail mix or something easy with you. Dispose of anything you bring in properly, so you leave nothing behind.

Make It A Custom

You never want to forget your loved one and one of the things you could do is put a custom into place to visit their gravesite at certain times. Perhaps you always go on their birthday, on a certain holiday, or on the anniversary of their death. Those regular visits are special.

There are lots of other things you can do when you visit a loved one’s grave and if you have questions about what you might want to do during those times, the professionals at the Jewish funeral home in Edison, NJ can help you with ideas and options. Contact Mount Sinai Memorial Chapels any time you need advice, whether you are about to plan a final service, or you have one behind you and need suggestions on other things.